You are allowed to have problems and express your feelings regardless of level of privilege. Let me repeat that. You are allowed to have problems and express your feelings regardless of level of privilege.
We seem to have this thing in society that tells us to ignore the fact that we have problems because others have it worse. And, while it is very true that others may have it worse than you do, this does not mean that you do not get to feel your pain.
We all have had things happen in our lives that make us feel like the world around us is crumbling. Maybe it’s a break up, maybe it’s a death, maybe it’s a bad grade on a test.
If it causes you to feel pain, it is a problem that you are allowed to complain about. You are allowed to feel the pain and have that pain validated as true to you.
Sure, a death of a family member may seem more important than failing a test, but if you fail a test and that causes you extreme distress, by all means, feel the emotions that come along with it. If your family member is diagnosed with cancer and you decide that you can’t feel your feelings that come along with the diagnosis because there are children starving in Africa who have it worse than you, nothing good comes of that. You have to allow yourself to feel the emotions that come along with painful experiences.
So, here’s my advice. Don’t compare your life to others’. Don’t compare your problems with others’. Allow yourself to feel the emotions that come along with anything you are going through and allow yourself to cope and get through the hard times. Then, once you’ve taken care of yourself, take care of others. Go on a mission trip. Donate your time or money to a cause you are passionate about. Be willing to listen to other problems. But, please, make sure you take care of yourself first. Accept the fact that, right now, you need to address your problem. You can have privilege and problems at the same time. And that’s okay.

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