So, there’s this thought that I have every so often that never fails to both amaze and terrify me. There are so many people in this world that I will never get the chance to meet. There are people that could have been my best friends. Best friends torn apart by distance and language among other things. It truly baffles me that the people I am friends with today are people who live in the same area and speak the same language as I do. What would happen if I was born in Jamaica or England or Russia? What if my birth parents hadn’t given me up when I was born? What if I spoke Spanish or Sign Language instead of English? The fact that my life went in the direction that it did and put me right where I need to be is truly amazing.
Unfortunately, this thought often occurs to me in the dead of night as I lay staring at my ceiling after my eyes have adjusted to the darkness of my room. This thought completely escapes me when I need it most: when everything is going wrong, when I can’t seem to figure out exactly what I’m doing, when nothing feels it is going the way it is supposed to.
When things are going well, its easy for me to sit here and tell you, and myself, that the reason you are where you are in life right now is because it is exactly where you need to be. Its easy to say that the thing that happened yesterday needed to happen in order for you to get where you are today and that the things that happen today have to happen to get you to tomorrow. Its crazy how easy it is to be optimistic when things are going right; when everything is all sunshine and rainbows. Unfortunately, we need to remember this all the time; especially when things seem to be going wrong, when the world feels like its spinning out of control.
I’m not writing this to make you feel bad for being pessimistic when things suck because, let’s be honest, we’ve all been there. I’m just saying that, as hard as it is, sometimes things just have to suck for a bit to get us where we need to be. Maybe it’s teaching us a life lesson, maybe we’ll meet someone who will turn out to be really important in our lives, maybe its just our turn to experience the sucky for a little bit. Whatever the reason, I promise there is one, even when – especially when – we don’t know what that reason is. In this moment, you are exactly where you need to be, doing exactly what you need to be doing. Try to remember this, if for no other reason, for your own peace of mind.